Yes that might be true Complex about not rushing things to find love but I have been impatient when it comes to love. Then again I am only 21 years of age. So, I still have a few more years to be considered a "good" age father rather than
a old father. Obviously I have my own goals in life about finding love which boils down to hopefully being married by the time I'm 25. However, I really should stop talking about these things. I didn't really think it would have gotten into a heated debate.
Oh it's not a debate just a conversation. So I must ask why are you looking for a partner in your life are you okay independently?
By... "
TheAwsome"
Yes I am okay by myself. I just have always desired/wanted to be married and have a family. That is my most simplest explanation.
Hm I see well I'm to young to understand all that I suppose I'm more of a "go it alone" kind of guy.
By... "
TheAwsome"
Yes, no worries, Awsome and I always have mindful conversations like this one, they're not debates. It's healthy.
I can tell you think a lot about this. I used to as well, and not that I don't, it's just that my views aren't the same anymore. By rush, I do mean being impatient though, haha. =]
I never believed in the whole notion of "you're still so young, you have tons of time to look for somebody" because people who told me that were or have been in relationships themselves since high school, so they had no clue what they were saying. We're not
getting any younger! I see it as a restriction, so, I don't think you should feed yourself that crap "oh, I'm only 21..." But it's hard for me to explain, I think it's important to be patient about things. Letting things just happen, when it comes to Love,
not chasing after people. I'm just saying this out of past experiences, which were not so good, but essential. I am female after all, so my perspective may not be the appropriate one because some guys like to chase, and don't like to be chased, idk, these
things are way too complicated.
So it's okay to want it as badly as you do, but maybe you should ask yourself why you want it in the first place? I mean, ask yourself what do you think you'll get out of it?
I used to want to have a family by that same age too, but I think my perspective is more grounded now and realistic. I've encountered people, and know people who are over 25, still want to raise a family but aren't there yet. I think it all depends on what
you want in what order, and life circumstances, etc.