Alright I plan to say a more educated statement on the matter. For one most of the Harem I have seen which are few as I'm still to this anyways love doesn't contain much meaning in Harems. Love is rather vague Harems as I feel the females that fall in
love with the male character is unjust two examples being Highschool DxD and Shuffle and Sekirei! The woman who fall in love for the male have no real reason to do so and the males in most harem are not in love there just running off of hormones. Love is something
that must be obtained and earned not simply thrown around for the sake of the plot that does not matter. And in most harems it would seem the love is forced wheter it be because the woman fear the competition or something along those lines. If love is forced
or random with no reason to justify it it is either forced bad chemistry or bustling hormones!
Now as far as the males they are either a pervert with power or no powers, a teen trying to pass the enterence exams, or a inexperienced guy with the high chance of having problems with girls what a shocker! The males as I have observed are usually saved by
the girl no problem there but the male no he does not do a thing but attract fan service! Now I know the male can't fight off the monster but at least try to do something in your power like helping your little harem through emotional stuff to build up proper
feelings and not get a nosebleed. Now the guys have powers can't seem to use it right and thus prove useless in that aspect at least until the end of the season righttttt.
The thing I wish for most of all is for there to be a male that considers the feelings of the females and that fan-service doesn't creep into every darn conversation! Oh for there to be real romance not the smell of over active hormones.
Now I ask you the community if they have any examples of real romance harems anyone at all come on.